What is Female Domination?

Female Domination. It seems pretty self-explanatory, doesn’t it? But it isn’t, not really. If it were, you wouldn’t be here reading this.  You wouldn’t have come looking for a Phone Sex Mistress to teach you about it, while you try desperately to please your new Mistress. Instead, you would just know.  But there is so much more to it than there seems in the beginning.

Female Domination: Physical Domination

First of all, there is the control and power of Domination. This is the essence of the relationship between a Dominant and a Submissive partner. Control. A Dominant partner is the one who assumes power over the submissive. While power and control are not always the same things, when we are talking about a D/s relationship they are extremely similar.

Domination as far as control, means not only physical control but also psychological control. This can be orders that must be obeyed or putting someone in a compromising position. However, as with all domination, this is, of course, a power exchange. There is no domination without a submission and that is a choice made by the submissive person.

This is the total power exchange, which is where any control, or semblance thereof, originates in Domination. When a submissive agrees to be controlled by the Dominant partner, they exchange their power, leading to the control aspect of Domination.

Types Of Domination

So is Female Domination all about sexual control and giving orders? No, a Dominatrix is more evolved than that. She will listen and compromise, as all real dominance involves not only consent, but also compromise. There is no excitement for a true Dom in force. Domination is about sexy and sensual, too. For many people, the word Domination conjures up images of dungeons and black leather.

A submissive partner relinquishes power to a Dominatrix, true, but there are so many other forms of domination. The simple act of being in control leads to domination. A cuckoldress who will bring a man home to fuck in front of her less manly husband is using domination when she tells him to stay and watch and see what a real man can do for her.

A Cock tease who leads you on, teasing and taunting you, making you wish she’d give in, even though you know she isn’t about to do that,  is dominant over you. That pretty girl in her short skirt is teaching you about domination. You see, domination is not just a dungeon, leather and whips D/s relationship.

Psychological Domination

A Phone Sex Domina can control you in many ways that are different from other relationships. After all she isn’t right there with you, so you feel safe and admit all your secret desires to her. Remember though, this is just another way that she can dominate you. Female domination is not only physical, though it’s often thought of that way. A Femdom Mistress is someone who can get into you head. She talks with you, gains your trust and then takes what you’ve told her and incorporates it into your desires and fantasies.

Oh yes, all Mistresses can do this. You see, we women don’t often use brute force to get our way. We don’t have to do that. Persuading you works so much better. Domination is psychological and physical, but often the mental domination is even stronger than the physical.  After all, anyone can tie you up or agree to use handcuffs with you, but a Dominatrix will induce you to submit to her.

It’s like the cock tease you follow who convinces you to stroke yourself for her, only to leave you there without letting you release. Or the girlfriend who buys a strap on and chats with you about it until you are sure it’s really you who wants to use it and not her. It’s all a mental form of Domination and gives you, now, a better sense of just what that is.

Personalized and Varied

Female Domination, as I mentioned earlier, isn’t simple or straightforward. It is a form of control. Many forms really. When you are looking for domination, you don’t have to mean whips and chains, or being collared and put in chastity (though they are fun parts of it). You can mean cuckolding and teasing or dressing up for a sexy Mistress, who cajoles you into putting on panties and coming to a party with her and her friends.

These are all forms of Female Domination, all physical and/or psychological. And while each is in it’s own way a power exchange and therefore similar, as you can see they are all also very different. Domination is personalized and as varied in nuance as those of us who love it.