You may have heard the term “distance domination” in passing, but you might not be sure what it means or what the implications of distance domination are. Don’t worry! We’re here to help.
Generally, distance domination refers to relationships that are, in part or wholly, conducted as long-distance, rather than face-to-face relationships. It can include things like domination phone sex, erotic text chat, webcam domination, email domination, and much more. Relationships like these can be just as fulfilling to the participants—and perhaps more so–than traditional relationships.
Not all distance domination relationships are conducted strictly electronically. In some of these relationships, the two (or more) people involved may live far enough away from each other that regular meetings are not feasible. But they are still able to meet up occasionally. These people often rely on electronic communication and distance domination to maintain their connection with each other between visits.
Other distant domination relationships are strictly electronic. There are a myriad of reasons that people might choose this type of relationship. Perhaps they’re so infatuated with their partners that they want to be with them, regardless of the distance between them. It’s possible they’re not looking for a long-term, serious relationship that requires a lot of time and attention. Perhaps they simply want to explore their desires whenever it’s convenient for them. Or maybe they’re using distance domination as a bridge between fantasy and reality. Any of these are perfectly valid reasons for trying distance domination.
In distance domination Femdom relationships, the participants don’t act a lot differently than people in physically tangible relationships. The Femdom Mistress gives instructions, and the submissive partner follows them to the best of his ability.
You may be thinking that there’s no way this can be possible, but you’d be incorrect. If the people involved in the relationship are open-minded and creative enough, there’s really no limit to what they can achieve together.
A distance submissive can do anything his Mistress asks of him, if he has the drive to do so. If she wants to see him wear panties, he can easily go and purchase a pair for himself and wear them while his Mistress watches on cam, for example. Or, if she wants to see him sucking cock for her, the two of them can collaborate on placing personal ads for him to meet other men. Once they find a suitable candidate, she can either watch on webcam, or he can take some pictures to share with her later. If the people involved are willing to be flexible, they can accomplish almost anything!
After reading this far, you may be wondering if you’re a good candidate for a distance domination relationship with a texting Femdom or a phone sex Mistress. Check out these criteria and see how well they fit you!
The most important trait, that a submissive seeking a domination relationship from a distance can have, is conscientiousness. All submissives should be obedient, but a submissive whose Mistress is not in the same room with him has to take initiative himself, rather than letting that responsibility fall to his Owner. Because she cannot supervise 24/7, she counts on him to supervise himself, so to speak, and complete the tasks she sets forth, even without her constantly looking over his shoulder.
Another very important trait for a domination submissive from a distance is honesty. Can you tell your Mistress the truth? Can you admit when you’ve disobeyed, even when it might mean a punishment for you? This ties in with conscientiousness. Because your Mistress won’t be there to watch you, she expects you to be a self-starter and get the job done (conscientiousness) and admit it when you can’t (honesty). This is important in all D/s relationships, but more so in distant domination relationships.
A third trait that domination submissives via distance (and the dominant women they serve, as well) should have is patience. Because you and your Mistress won’t be face-to-face all the time. You have to be patient when your schedules don’t match up or when she’s not able to respond to you immediately.
If you have these qualities, a distance domination relationship may, in fact, be right for you!