3 Reasons People Like Blindfold Sex

by Mistress Daphne of www.phonesexfemdommes.com

 

Have you ever had blindfold sex? I am 99% sure the answer is YES! Even the most vanilla people in the world have, at one time or another, been blindfolded while they have had sex. Have you?

 

Sex While Blindfolded

 

There are many reasons someone might want to be blindfolded while having sex. I’m going to share three of the main ones I have seen in my life as a kinky woman over the last couple-three decades.

Part of what’s fun is the decision to blindfold someone (or be blindfolded) doesn’t have to be planned in advance like many kinky or even fetish-y sex acts do. You can cover someone’s eyes with just about anything. I have seen a lot of unique items blocking someone’s eyesight!

Probably the most unique I have seen was cucumbers over the eyes. Of course, the person was lying down and could not move (that was part of the scene… the not moving part), but it was so much fun to watch as the person was tickled, stroked, even tapped… unable to move lest the cucumbers fall off their eyes. And the punishment for that happening? That was left between the Dominant and cucumber-wearer.

 

More Typical Blindfolds

 

It wouldn’t take a lot of guessing to think of most blindfolds, so what are some options:

  • Silk scarves
  • Neckties
  • Panties tied together
  • A bra
  • Dishtowels
  • Cloth over the eyes and a belt tying it on
  • Someone’s hands
  • Sleeping eye mask
  • BDSM eye mask
  • Plain black blindfold

When you are looking for a blindfold, be creative!

 

Why Use a Blindfold During Sex?

 

Blindfold Sex Reason 1: Sensory Deprivation

The most common reason shared among those I asked, “Why do you use a blindfold during sex?” answered “Sensory Deprivation.”

When one sense is blocked, the other senses tend to come alive. Therefore, if you are unable to see, you can smell… and feel… things much more acutely.

Imagine being stroked by someone you cannot see. Their fingers dragging down your chest, their fingers lifting off and then suddenly feeling a gentle pinch on one of your nipples. You expect the other nipple to be pinched, but instead, you get a delicious wet kiss on your lips. Then when that kiss ends, that is when the same nipple is pinched. What a treat to be clueless as to wear the touches and tweaks are going to happen!

Think about feeling ice being dribbled onto your body, not having any idea where it is going to land. What if your partner took the ice and set it directly on your belly button. You would be quite startled, I’m sure. But what fun!

What about instead of ice, the dribbles were from melted wax. Would that surprise you even more? I’m guessing it would.

How wonderful would that be?

Blindfold Sex Reason 2: Blindfolding Surprise

Imagine your lover surprising you with various scents and sensations throughout a wonderful lovemaking session. Beyond the items and things mentioned above, perhaps they will surprise you with a meal they are going to feed you.

Have you watched 9 1/2 Weeks? If not, why not?! If for nothing else, for the refrigerator scene. It’s one of the sexiest scenes ever. Go to where you watch videos and put in “Refrigerator Scene 9 1/2 Weeks” and it will come up. While Kim Basinger isn’t technically blindfolded, imagine she is and you will have the full picture of the possibilities.

Yummy on many levels.

Blindfold Sex Reason 3: Taking Control/Offering Control

Another great reason people use blindfolds is the Power Exchange. Each partner assumes a role as either Dominant or submissive and the blindfold is the representation of that submissive space. 

Blindfolded submissives are not prisoners (unless that is the scene you are playing out, of course), but are definitely in a more helpless position than the Dominant. If someone is used to their sight, taking it away removes a bit of their autonomy and abilities to flee. 

When beginning blindfold sex, it isn’t uncommon to leave the blindfolded person’s hands untethered so if the they get scared, they can pull the blindfold off themselves. For those with more experience, binding the hands behind the sub is more common. Clearly, this takes a great deal of trust and isn’t something one would do with a new partner. Trust is integral.

When one is in that place of confidence in your sub or Dom/me, the Power Exchange can be delicious. Finding one’s sub space or Dom/me space is amazing. 

Finally…

If you have not tried blindfold sex, consider it with a willing partner and enjoy the ride!